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Welcome! Need some sound advice, or just someone to talk to? Ask Sista! She will dig deep into her pocket of wisdom and lay it on the line for you. Sista will neva advise you to do something she hasn’t already done herself, but then again…she just might. “Dear Sista” serves as the Dear Abby column for La’ie and “all around da world sprat” (inside joke…see Sosina Feinga for details). So if you need to clear your mind...make no delay…talk to Sista today

Note: For confidentiality purposes we suggest you use a fictitious name; word or phrase to identify yourself and you will be addressed accordingly.

Q. Dear Sista, I have a self image problem, people keep telling me that my head is oversized and that my ears are to big. I try not to let it affect me but I just can't help it. What should I do? - Anonymous
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Q. Dear Sista, I know this is "Ask Sista" but thought I share some tips for a better life and hope that it will help some of your writers and readers. 1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant. 2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to. 3. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to________ today.' 4. Eat more foods that grow on plants, and eat less food that is manufactured in plants. 5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts. 6. Try to make at least three people smile each day. 7. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment. 8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card. 9. Life isn't fair, but it's still good. 10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. 11. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. 12. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. 13. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present. 14. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. 16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?' 17. Forgive everyone for everything. 18. What other people think of you is none of your business. 19. GOD can heal everything in His plan. We just need to trust His bigger picture. 20. However good or bad a situation may seem God is in control. 21. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch!!! 22. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. 23. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: 'I am thankful for _____.' 'Today I accomplished______.' 24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed. 25. Please Forward this to everyone you care about. - Anon
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Q. Dear Sista, I have had overwhelming and difficult personal challenges lasting for over 2 years. I haven't had a vacation or any fun during that time. I am so tired. Any suggestions as to how I can get the strenght I need to carry on. I just wish my life would get easier or simpler so I can have time for myself. Any suggestions? Thanks! - Just wondering...
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Q. Dear Sista, What are your Christmas traditions? - Anonymous
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Q. Dear Sista, Can you please tell me what the secret is to financially surviving in Hawaii? I miss home and really want to raise my kids there. I want them to have the experiences that I had attending laie elementry...mayday,culture day,etc... It just seems impossible to be able to afford to raise my family in Hawaii. Any tips on how I could move my family home? - stuck in the mainland
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Q. Dear Sista, I grew up in Laie and miss all the fun we use to have. Carnivals, Bazaars at Laie elementary school, Thursday night specials at PCC theater, what happened to all of that? - Missing the Good Old Days
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Q. Dear Sista, I have a friend who is interested in the church. I have been dating him for a few months. He is black and has lots of questions, especially about why blacks couldn't hold the priesthood. I really like him, but at the same time I don't want to offend him in any way. Please help! - Just sharing
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Q. Dear Sista, I am 17 years old and planning to go to college when I graduate from high school. I am a straight A student. I have received letters in the mail from Stanford and Harvard. My parents are discouraging me from going to either one because they don't think they can afford it. In fact they can't afford it. I have worked hard to get where I am and to not have my parents support me is very disappointing. - Disappointed
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Q. Dear Sista, I hava always been curious to tight knit communities. Why do people get other people's business. Especially in a community that is strong religion that teaches us to be christ like and not to cast the first stone. Its seems like we take things for granted. I only wish that we can become better brother and sistahs and become bettah nieghbors and even a bettah community by just loving one another and not getting into someone elses business and making gossip out of it. Just wanted your thoughts on this. Mahalo Curious - Curious
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Q. Dear Sista, I am a senior attending (undisclosed) high school. I have an issue. my sexual orientation. I'm gay and no one knows that I am. I'm afraid to let my family and friends know because if I do then I won't have them in my life anymore. It all started when I was in elementary. me and this boy (undisclosed) had some gay like activities. We are still doing this. I also play football this year and I find myself checking out my team mates. I don't know how to break this to everyone. - Anonymous
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Q. Dear Sista, I'm in big trouble and I don't know where to begin. I am 17 yrs. old and six months pregnant. My parents no nothing about it, neither do my friends at school or at church. I have always been one to wear baggy clothes, I'm not showing that much so no one suspects anything. My boyfriend (now ex because we broke up) wanted me to have an abortion but I refused because I am pro life. I am real scared and don't know what to do. If my parents found out they would be so angry with me. - Stranded
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Q. Dear Sista, My brother and sister-in-law and have been married for almost 30 years. They seemed to have a happy marriage all these years, raised good children, have been close as a family with of course those "too close for comfort" moments; but a few nights ago I think they were going to call it quits. They have been quarreling for a number of months about their son, his wife and three children who live with them. My sister-in-law thinks they should move out on their own so they can learn what it's like to be responsible adults, but my brother insists that they stay. I know he's worried about his grandchildren, and...there are perhaps other underlying problems that exist that are probably too personal to mention. To make a long story short; and from my point of view, both parties are not willing to understand the other...I think my brother should put his wife first as should my nephew with his wife and children. I'm afraid this situation is going to break up a good marriage. - Concerned
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Q. Dear Sista, I don't know where to turn to. I am 21 and my boyfriend and I broke up after being with each other for 3 1/2 years. He told me yesterday that he met someone and that he wanted to break up with me. I don't know what I did to deserve this. I have been nothing but loyal to him for the whole time weve been together. I really need your advice. - Heartbroken
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Q. Dear Sista, I'm having an "in law' problem and hoping for some outside opinion. My father in law needed help with money which we were unable to give. We were unaware that this upset him very much.We always helped in the past with any fa'alavelave that his family had. This was the first time we didn't. At FHE , my father in law spent his time telling his other kids how wonderful they are and thanking them for always supporting him. He did it in a mean and vindictive way purpously ignoring my husband and I. I am hurt and confused on how any parent could do that to a child. I have forgiven him and am trying to get over it. My husband is too hurt by the damage his father has done. Any words to help us out? - Anonymous
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Q. Hello Sista, My family moved to your area in January, but I chose to stay where I am and hope to visit one day. They told me about this website and I think it's really neat especially your town's version of dear Abby. I am emailing because I am concerned about the future so please bear with me. I am 29 years of age and engaged to be married in a couple months in the temple (I do not wish to mention for privacy sake). I've known my fiancée for 2 years and we have a great relationship. Lately however I have felt a distance between us accompanied with excessive arguing. We don't sit and talk like we use to and as much as I am fighting the fact that we're drifting apart, I feel we are. What to do in this situation? - dumbfounded
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